On the other hand, I did have to spend the next 15 minutes discussing a gown that, if worn by Cinderella, would have made her throw up and relegated her fairy godmother’s status to that of a goblin.ģ. She immediately replied, ‘No, it’s this speaker phone, wait let me use my airpods.’ Then as she started chattering away, I said, ‘There is some strange echo, I can’t hear anything, I will call you later.’ Instead of berating her about the speaker phone, I started talking about her current obsession with the Cannes red carpet looks. Taking cues from Dale bhaisaab, I have discovered that not only must you converse with the other person on topics that interest them, but if you want them to change, make it seem like it was their idea all along. She claims she doesn’t like placing the phone to her ear and is too lazy to use her earbuds. I beg her to stop using the speakerphone as not only does it produce a strange sound, but by now, even her father-in-law is privy to all my intimate secrets. My daily calls with my sister usually start with a small squabble. This one, seemed like I was either trying to scare animals away, or at best, was opening my mouth wide to brush my teeth.Ģ.
I examined my smile while taking a selfie and realised that I had to learn to fake a better one. The meeting went downhill as she kept glancing at me suspiciously. ‘Then why are you smiling in this strange way!’ In a few moments, she asked, ‘Is this not ok?
At a team meeting, I decided to apply this principle by grinning away as a colleague was pitching her idea. Dale ji states that a smile is the first step in making people like you. This would not have bothered me if I hadn’t noticed even banal discussions with my loved ones snowballing into arguments lately.Ī few alterations were required so I decided to turn to the most popular book in the category, Dale Carnegie’s ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’, and distil some gyan.ġ. ‘See, you should have just listened to me,’ I smirked, ‘It’s a blood test, not a husband that you have to keep a Karva Chauth fast for it!’īut instead of our common acquaintance being grateful, he had complained with this grammatically incorrect statement, ‘She thinks too much of herself!’ Of course, you can drink water before a routine blood test!’Īfter a few phone calls, I was proven right. ‘Then your doctor has gone to the same university as Munna Bhai MBBS because that is ridiculous. The gentleman who had joined us for the meal, ate hastily and then added, ‘I can’t eat or drink anything, not even water till after my blood test tomorrow.’ Illustration credit: Chad Crowe She then reminded me of a conversation that we had over dinner the previous week. ‘Why are you always making stupid cracks, why can’t you just be sweet to everyone?’ ‘Otherwise, what do they think, that I am all brain? I don’t mind that actually!’ ‘When people get to know you, then they realise you are all heart!’ she said in an earnest tone. The desire to alter this perception was brought to a head by one of my closest friends. Let me clarify that none of these terms have ever been used to describe me, not even by my mother. Along with affable, amiable and yes, sweet-natured. As in, ‘Oh she is so nice, so sweet!’ The dictionary also considers it as a synonym for likeable. The word is often used as a barometer for likeability.
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